Tuesday, May 16, 2017

Caregiving Means Living on Stolen Time

The thing they do not realize, when they tell parents/caregivers to take time for ourselves, is that our time does not arrive to us unlabeled and unclaimed. All the time that comes to us arrives already in possession of our loved ones. In order to "take" time for ourselves, we have to wrest each minute of it away from loved ones who are holding onto it as a lifeline, because they cannot care for themselves.
It is not that we do not value ourselves. It is not that we do not understand that we have to take care of ourselves to be able to take care of others.
It is the obscenity of having to take away from those who have too little, in order to be able to give them anything at all.

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